Desiree inspired me to write this because I think about this A LOT, and my friends and I discuss it, but I've never put finger to key and wrote about it- Benefits of Being an Older Mommy!.
I had just turned 30 when I found out I was pregnant. Although while pregnant, I whined and complained about it and blamed my symptoms on my older age-my little sister, pregnant at the same time, 23 hopped and bustled along, while I slept and loafed- AND post pregnancy, I complained about healing much slower than my sister, losing weight slower, etc. while my younger sister snapped back and was up and walking within a week, there are benefits to being a mom after 30.
1. Me and my body had a good run.
Post baby- yesterday-trying to find a bathing suit
P.S. It was doing something weird in the crotch area, so don't think that's my women parts. LOL.
Can you believe I even posted this picture? But you know what- I don't even care. I had a good run with bikinis and shapely legs and non back fat, but I'm fully ready to embrace the new life with one pieces. (I might add this new found confidence also came with realizing how big I could truly get and learning to appreciate myself!)
I've got stretch marks to be damned but who cares, I'm STILL FABULOUS. (work cite: Kenya Moore)
2. I've LIVVVVVVVVED! (work cite: Wendy Williams)
My little sister still wants to do young things and as a result, as good of a mommy she is, she's kinda selfish. But she's young- she's under 25, what do you expect? Her young adulthood, where you are supposed to be wild and reckless, kind of got cut short.
But me, I have no interest in going to the club, putting on heels and being seen "choosing" AND having to search for a sitter for it. #aintnobodygottimeforthat
Friday and Saturday nights, you'll find me and my husband probably doing a date in early or late afternoon (if we can) and back at home to our baby girl by 10. And I'm OK with that, I had a few years to do young, dumb stuff. (Ugh, I don't want to go back there!)
3. As Desiree also pointed out, patience. Zoe is OFF THE CHAIN. She messes up everything and gets into everything and whew child, she wears me out.
4. Confident Parenting
Desiree also mentioned this. I read a blog not too long ago where a woman was talking about being unsure in parenting and wondering if you are doing the best by your kids and how she felt bad because she had to leave them to go to work and, etc. Well, nope, not me. I don't have any guilt or any doubts. Zoe may smile some days and she may cry some days but as long as she's still running to me for hugs and love, we're all good.
I will try to be open and honest with her as she gets older so she'll learn from my mistakes but I will also respect that she'll make her own. I will have an open door policy and for my family, I think that's best.
She will not be my best friend or my confidant but she will be my child, and I'm grateful that God trusted me with this.